Day 41: Patience is Kind
“Patience is the calm acceptance that things can happen in a different order than the one you have in mind.” – David G. Allen
As I was waiting in the very long line at Whole Foods Market today, a lovely old lady looked at me and said, “patience is a virtue.” From there a conversation began. We discussed our respective holiday plans and spent what could have been a frustrating 15 minute wait having a very nice conversation. She made my day! She was kind, witty and interesting.
Patience is a virtue, but is certainly not always easy when we get caught up in ourselves. When we can slow down and remember that we are all trying to move through this world, patience won’t be so difficult, and maybe an uncomfortable or frustrating situation can be turned into an opportunity for human kindness and connection.
Kindness to Self:
Being patient with myself is sometimes more difficult than being patient with others. When I am hard on myself and notice the negative self-talk slipping in, it is time to slow down, look within and be gentle as I remind myself that I am not perfect, but perfectly in progression. I came across this funny quote that sums it up: “I am currently under construction…thank you for your patience.”
Kindness to Others:
Maybe this is in fact more difficult?! My children come to mind and how much they test my patience on a regular basis. Practicing patience with others, especially loved ones, can be challenging because those are the people that we can become lazy and complacent with. Again, it is about slowing down and having awareness and acceptance or it is as simple as changing perspective.
Kindness to Strangers:
Developing patience out in the world is most definitely a virtue. When I think of the days that I am in a hurry and lacking patience, thoughts of agitation, stress, and a tight body come to mind. My lack of patience affects me, not the other person. Of course I have taken my lack of patience out on the poor store clerk or the person not allowing me to merge, but in the end, I am the one that feels the negative affects. When I think of the days that I have an abundance of patience, those are the days that are filled with happiness, delight and joy in all of my interactions. Patience is kindness for everyone.
Kindness to Our Planet:
These last several years we have had a drought in California, and even though we are finally getting some rain, we are extremely far from relief. Yes, we must be patient, but we must also be persistent in our conservation and in our understanding of when, how and by whom a majority of the water is being used. To learn more about water conservation and corporate misuse of water in California please visit: FoodandWaterWatch.org
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